I’m kind of a big birthday person. I’ve always really loved celebrating people’s birthdays. Every year that I can remember I looked forward to my birthday, perhaps because it’s smack dab in the middle of summer or it meant doing something fun that I got to choose. I also think that anticipating milestones helped – being 10 and holding up 2 whole hands to show my age, turning 13 and officially becoming a teenager after celebrating my bat mitzvah just 4 days before, the big 1.6. and getting my license(!), 21 and the joys / convenience that brought. They were all wonderful things to celebrate, with friends and family around to share the love.
This blog is the product of my quarter life crisis at 24 and last year I’d like to think I accepted turning a Quarter Century with grace and comfortable with being 25. Which brings me to this year and my general lack of excitement for turning 26.
I feel like an adult now. I’d like to think I look more adult than I used to (which makes sense and yet bouncers, bar tenders, and restaurant waitstaff don’t see it.) I’ve embraced a lot mentally and physically that makes me feel in charge of my life. I think I’m in a better place and kinda love adult life.
In honor of turning 26 I thought I would share the 25 things I learned over the past year. I think all of these lessons will continue to guide and inform me for the rest of my life. Here’s to an incredible year!
- Own your mid-twenties. It’s really not that bad, unless a 20 year old college sophomore calls you old
- YOU are in charge of your life!
- Making big decisions can be scary but procrastinating them only makes them scarier than they really are. Just do it!
- While you can’t always choose what happens to you you can choose your attitude. I’ve forced myself to try to be positive with everything this year!
- Own your feelings. Sometimes they’re awesome and it comes naturally to feel happy, excited, or proud. Other times it sucks and you just have to accept those feelings of angst, uncertainty, or fear.
- Teenagers aren’t the only ones with angst.
- I’m in the driver’s seat of my life.
- Mom and Dad will always be some of your biggest fans. And life coaches. And knowing that makes life just a little bit easier.
- Summer happiness is frolicking through a strawberry field that smells like fresh strawberry jam on a sunny day.
- Saying yes opens a lot of doors.
- Eat real food. And treats are necessary every once and a while too!
- Being strong and healthy are important. Being stick thin isn’t.
- Love those muscles – you worked hard to earn them!
- An old dog can learn new tricks. And apparently, learn to like country music!
- Confidence is a beautiful thing.
- Apparently I can be funny. Although definitely not on cue.
- Getting pushed out of an elevator was one of the best things that’s happened to me all year.
- Take a risk!
- The right educational opportunity exists. And when you’re lucky enough to discover it, just do it!
- Sometimes giving the silent treatment is the mature way to handle a bad situation.
- Take the risk and share your feelings. Someone will agree or at least relate to them.
- It’s okay to embrace new technology and stay “current.”
- Having great friends is like having a magic talking mirror – they always tell you what you need to hear and show you your own reflection / remind you of things you already know and love.
- Thank people. Whether they’ve taught me something new, supported me, listened, challenged me, or something else, I’ve found that thanking people is just one small way to be kind to others often.
- There is such a thing as feeling like an adult and it’s feeling pretty good!
Here’s to a wonderfully exciting and adventurous 26!
In line with the title of this post I have to be honest and give Amanda credit for what you’re about to read below. She wrote some quick admissions of things in her post tonight and I could relate to a few and decided to write my own. So what am I about to share? Nothing to scandalous or crazy, just some things that will hopefully explain a shift in my blogging over the past few months.
Without further ado, some quick confessions:
- A lot of my meals are things that you guys have seen time and time again and with a lot of other things going on I don’t find it interesting or worth readers’ time to blog the same meals every few days.
- There’s a lot going on in my life right now. I try to share the fun things. I’m going to be sharing at least one good bit of news soon when the time is right. There’s also a lot that I can’t / won’t write about so I tend to go silent for a day rather than write a big teaser. (yes, this bullet point is hypocritical)
- I’m doing a lot more and living life, seeing friends and don’t always document it. I guess I still have more to learn to balance living life and sharing it here on the blog!
- It’s going to get old real fast but summer and the past few weeks have made me really, really happy and I’m living in the moment with those feelings. Yup, I’m owning my gushy-ness
There ya have it. A little bit of Tuesday night honesty. I hope you’ll stick with me along for the ride. There will be more gluten free goodness and life updates soon. I just want to make sure I’m excited and have the time to do them justice on the blog when I do write about them!
Hi Friends! I’m breaking radio silence to check in with you all. I had kind of a rough week last week and chose to cope the best way I know how – spending time doing things I love: hanging out with friends and getting in lots and lots of walking. Oh, plus a little bit of comforting carbs for fun
Amidst one of my walks last week I realized that while everything might not be roses at the moment I have a lot to be grateful for. My wonderful friends have made the past few weeks especially great and spending time outside has made me thankful for summer’s arrival. These views helped too, I’m sure.
I’m going out of my way to make things great and send lots of positive energy out into the world.
Here’s to focusing on things that really matter and not letting the noise get us down!
How are you committing to making this week great?
Last week I had a little epiphany.
I’ve been working out pretty consistently for the last ~6 months coming off of a stress fracture in my foot. I push myself at the gym most of the time. I’m open to trying new classes and machines and even made it one of my goals for the year.
As I headed out the door to a yoga class I decided to run to / from the gym. This was my first real “run” in a few months and definitely the first outdoor run since the fall. My relationship with running usually goes something like this – for the first couple of blocks “This feels great. I can totally keep it up.” And then come the thoughts of “Crap, time to walk. This is hard.” And I’ll take a little walking break.
I’m not so much bothered by my trots (one of the terms floating around for walk / run combos) but by my competitiveness. I love group exercise classes because I feel like I push myself more than when I work out on my own. I don’t want to be the last one to finish or not complete a weights circuit when everyone else is. I would never push myself to injury but I like being pushed to my limits.
Looking back at running, here’s my struggle. I know that I should be fit enough to run a mile but I think my mental toughness is what gets in my way. Now, I have never been a natural-born distance runner so I know it’s something I have to practice and work towards but lately, when it’s just me and my mind, it seems like I let that little voice inside my head defeat me instead of inspiring me to push myself to my limits, to take a risk, and to enjoy being uncomfortable. On the other hand, ask me to run sprints or short distances and I’m game thanks to years of tennis training.
With it warming up in DC I plan to spend more and more time outside enjoying the weather, whether in the form of long walks or runs. But it’s the mental toughness I’d really like to focus on in my fitness routine. I’m just not sure how to get there…
Do you struggle with mental toughness? How do you overcome it? How did you strengthen your brain?